If Your husband has asked You lock him in chastity, You may think he is asking you to do some sexually perverted, kinky, thing that You don’t understand and don’t want to understand because it is sick and perverted. The fact is, he is not sick and perverted, he just wants to have fun, sexually.
There was a time in Your marriage when sex was fun and exciting for You, too. Wasn’t there? He just wants to get that back again. He is not asking You to do anything that is difficult, or perverted. He is asking You to play a game with him. A sexual game in which You control when and how he has sex. That’s all. So give it a chance. You may be surprised at how much fun You, Yourself, can have
Chastity is an amazing fetish. Most
people think it’s some kind of punishment or chore, but it isn’t. The feelings
you receive from abstaining from orgasm are just sublime. Guys feel aroused
right up until the point where they orgasm, then everything is reset to zero
after orgasm they’re no longer turned on and in order to become even remotely
aroused they have to wait again for the feelings to kick in.
Well, what if they didn’t orgasm. What if they didn’t
masturbate every evening? What if they abstained from orgasms altogether? Would
the feelings of arousal increase and increase? Yes. Yes they would. Which is
why chastity is an immensely popular fetish.
Chastity popularity
It is such an intimate act to show trust in his
partner for a man to hand over the key to his “crown jewels“ and to allow him
to be locked up, to await “HER” pleasure. It is quite surprising that so many
people have dabbled with the man wearing a chastity device, and they are the
second most often bought sex toys after vibrators.
Chastity
– A Joint Decision
For chastity to work well it has to be a
joint decision. If you’re both eager to try chastity then the belt or device
you choose should also appeal to your wife. It’s no good you buying an
expensive belt and she hates the sight of it.
Some women find the transparency of the
CB-6000, CB-6000s or the Curve nicely displays the enslaved penis, many
would-be keyholders like the quality and hygiene of a stainless steel device.
Other women like the thought of the traditional Florentine style belts
believing they are more secure.
Others initially prefer to go for
something like the Stallion Guard as a low cost device to experiment with
before deciding on a more secure belt or cage. There are keyholders who like to
allow and see the penis fully erect whilst it’s encased, belts and devices most
suited to this concept, known as “penile negation”, include the Samurai and
Caterpillar cock cages from Mr S. Neither of these 2 devices can be considered
long term wear, however, they’re an ideal purchase as an additional chastity
device to your collection, and allow your keyholder the opportunity to employ
different techniques of teasing.
Some keyholders love these devices because they relish
the sight of a fully erect, straining cock unable to escape.
Chastity and Masturbation
All men, given the ability, masturbate and way more
often than most women think they do. This is something that is difficult for
him to control and even more difficult to part with. Young men have an
abundance of testosterone so masturbation doesn’t seem to interfere with their
pursuit of young women.
However, as men grow older masturbating usually
translates into the husband ignoring his wife for at least a couple days.
Chastity puts a stop to the masturbation and works in many ways; it changes his
mood, demeanor and libido. Most importantly it changes his desire to please
you. It is not the goal for him to do the cooking or the cleaning or the
laundry but you will find that it will happen, not routinely but it will happen
because as he continues to build up his sexual energy that he no longer has the
ability to release as he pleases he will divert that energy towards pleasing
you.
Your being the source of his
sexual pleasure will change his feelings, he will adore you, love you in a way
that you desire and he will be eager to please you because you are, as I said,
the source of his release. He will find, over time, he is happier and that will
be because you’re happier. He will love the emotional boost the two of you
share.
This
isn’t as kinky as it sounds
If your sex life to date has been restricted to
intercourse and perhaps mutual masturbation, chastity play can sound like
something pretty weird. It isn’t. Nothing has to change about how you make
love; what changes is when. The partner who wears the chastity belt has given
the partner who has the “key” the ability to decide when sex can take place.
Since most chastity devices effectively prevent masturbation, it means one
partner gives the other control of all orgasms. This can be a great deal of fun
for both people.
Chastity play allows you to take sex out
of the bedroom in a subtle way that only the two of you will know. For example,
if a woman has her male partner locked up, they can agree on “rules” he should
follow, such as “he must always stand when she enters the room.” If when they
are out with friends he forgets, she can smile and hold some fingers up and he
will know he stays locked up that many more days until he can get release.
If you don’t think this is incredibly hot to both
partners, just try it! You won’t believe how exciting a dull relationship can
become overnight. Take a few minutes and use your imagination. Fun, huh?
Chastity
Devices
Chastity devices have been used throughout the ages in order to prevent
sexual intercourse. Classically, chastity has been forced upon someone using a
belt type mechanic, but in recent times, more concealable and localized devices
are able to be used in order to prevent the ability to touch and interact with
sexual organs. In addition to the modern interpretation of how to perform
chastity, a sexual fetish has developed. Individuals now enjoy the prospect of
being locked up and unable to perform sexual activities unless the other person
who’s chastised them allows it.
Chastity
and Confinement for Men
Chastity
for men is the most common form, with blocks of specially formed plastic being
placed around the penis with a small lock attached for keeping it closed. Some
male chastity devices make it impossible or highly painful to experience an
erection, aiding the experience of being denied sexual pleasure. One major
element of chastity is the understanding that eventually, the device will be
removed. The sexual fetish is undesirable if the wearer believes that they will
never be allowed to experience an orgasm again. As expected, chastity is an
exchange of a power dynamic, with one person assuming the role of being in
charge and the other being submissive and completely subject to the will of the
other person.
Chastity
for couples
Male chastity is not just for men, nor
is it just for women who want to control their men. Male chastity is for
couples! Both the submissive male and his partner stand to gain from
incorporating male chastity into the relationship. The relationship as a whole
stands a great deal to gain as well.
Taking control of one small aspect of
your relationship – The sex. By utilizing a chastity device, you are taking the
first step toward controlling your partner. He may or may not be keen on the
idea. If this is your idea, you may have to incorporate a little tease and
denial to get what you want….it will work.
If you can both agree to give male chastity a chance,
then be realistic about it. Start out slow and easy. Don’t plan on more than a
month or even a week for a trial period. Remember, this is just a trial period.
If you don’t like it, don’t get any enjoyment from it, don’t see how it can
improve your relationship, then you can always quit.
Couple
chastity
If you’re in a committed relationship, but you want to
really turn up the heat in your sex play, then chastity could be the answer for
you.
Many couples engage in chastity as a means of getting back the desire they felt
in the early days of their relationship, when they couldn’t wait to have sex,
and it lasted for hours not minutes. A time when they were always on each
other’s mind.
Chastity is also a choice for many couples when the man has been
unfaithful, or has been caught masturbating to internet porn. He may choose
chastity as a way to demonstrate his commitment, reassure his partner, and
enhance their relationship. This is a precious pledge for any man, and the
thought of this alone can be incredibly arousing for both partners.
There is no doubt about it, chastity play results in superior sexual
satisfaction! Trying to earn a release, the bottom will be much more attentive
to his partner’s needs. Without being distracted by his own selfish wants, his
sole focus is pleasuring his Keyholder. He will demonstrate his ability and
affection to his partner, going above and beyond in the hope of an ultimate
‘release’..
Remember; the
couple that plays together stays together!
Chastity and relantionship
There is no one right way to practice chastity, but
most agree that a man who practices chastity is expressing profound respect for
their partner and women generally. Chastity is a challenge well worth
undertaking because it can help lead to a transformation of a man’s
relationship with his partner. Almost every account of a chastity regimen notes
that the man becomes much more attentive to the needs of his partner, serving
her better both sexually and in a myriad of other ways that are pleasing to
her. The many religious traditions that use chastity/abstinence as a key
element of their spiritual practice and service orientation are definitely onto
something..
Primary
benefits of enforced male
1. It prevents him from masturbating.
Male masturbation is a filthy habit. It’s addictive, selfish, and disrespectful
to women. Chronic masturbation has the effect of substantially diminishing a
man’s natural sexual desire for his wife of girlfriend. It unfortunately
teaches him that his orgasm is primary, and hers is secondary.
2. Because he can’t even get an erection
without her permission, it instantly changes the dynamics of the relationship.
3. It keeps his sexual focus and energy
on his wife or girlfriend.
4. It will substantially increase his
desire to orally service his wife or girlfriend.
5. If he’s never been an ass-eater,
after having his penis locked up for a few weeks, he will be.
6. It serves as a constant reminder to
him of her authority.
7. Because it makes his orgasms entirely
dependent on her generosity, it positively incentives him to honor her, respect
her, and motivates him to please.
8. It gives him the time and opportunity
to substantially improve and perfect his oral skills.
9. It reinforces the idea that pussy is
a precious gift that must be earned, and is to be savored and appreciated on
those rare occasions when he does get it.
10. It teaches him that sexual activity
with his wife or girlfriend doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with his
penis.
11. It deepens his submission to her,
and will cause him to worship the ground she walks on.
12. It will significantly improve his
attitude, and make him more generous, caring, kind, respectful, and loving. It
will help soften the sharper edges of his me-first masculinity. It will make
him more of a listener than a talker.
13. It helps prepares him for the
eventuality of anal penetration, and getting the strap-on. Because his penis
isn’t being sexually stimulated, it has the effect of gradually turning other
parts of his body into erogenous zones, particularly his anus and his prostate.
With patience and persistence, he can be trained to orgasm from stimulation in
that region via your finger, or the strap-on.
14. If his orgasms are consistently controlled and
severely restricted, he will eventually get to the point where he will do just
about anything to cum. You’ll be amazed by what he’ll do for you.
Chastity – power to the woman
This voluntary act in which the man shows
his trust and hands over the key to his most precious possessions to her who
will then decide when he is to be released. This is an action which gives
enormous power to the woman in a relationship, or the supervisor on our course
and it is a gift from him to her.
It is a sexual act which frees him from
the ability to pleasure himself and frees him to learn how to please his
partner and thus be allowed pleasure himself.
It sounds from this description a strange and “kinky
“activity, but surprisingly the approach has wide acceptance as a method to
improve male performance and pleasure.
The Mental Game of Chastity
The power exchange exists in the realm
of the minds so to the submissive male, being denied can provide him with more
mental pleasure and more mental fulfillment than a physical orgasm.
The aroused and denied male will spend
more time in subspace and thus his mind will be on a mental sphere where the
female rules supreme in his life and he is much more eager to serve the female.
The mental stimulation should touch a man’s
psychological triggers, which will stimulate him sexually. It is that mental
stimulation that causes an intense power exchange and that can make sex more
pleasurable for the woman both physically and mentally while at the same time
fulfilling the male need to be dominated.
Chastity
and BDSM
Chastity is a fantastic pawn in the BDSM game. It is a
great tool for tease and denial, and can be implemented as an incredibly
effective punishment/reward scheme. Dominants that have never fully engaged in
chastity play, will have almost certainly at some point employed a ‘permission
to cum?’ policy. So, what’s the difference? Well chastity play takes this
concept one step further and gives the Key Holder full control over their
slave’s orgasms. Many people who love to engage in BDSM have not yet discovered
the joys of chastity
Locked in Chastity for BDSM
Key Holder is a term used to
describe the dominant woman in a male chastity agreement. Many couples are into
BDSM and male chastity is one of the many methods that these women use to
dominate their men. Some men are more turned on the more they are ordered
around.
The woman will tease the man while he has a male
chastity device on and she is the only one who has the key to open it and award
him with a release. Discuss it with your partner in detail and decide if you
want your chastity to be long term or short term.
If you are just starting out,
you should ease into it before you commit to being locked in. If you enter into
it before you are ready it will likely prolong the process.
“be
careful what you wish for”
There is an old saying among those wives
who adopted a chastity lifestyle because their husbands encouraged them…”be
careful what you wish for”.
If some of the husbands were given
a choice to go back to their old ways they would, but none of the wives would.
Deep down the caged men are happier because they
wanted to be sexually controlled by their wives and now they are. Their new
reality is often much different than their original fantasy because it is now
your fantasy not his.
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